Preparing for your coaching session
I’m so excited about our upcoming coaching session. I have written this document to help you get the most out of our time together.
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Working with a coach
Here are 3 principles about working with a coach:
The session is there to benefit you. The more you are free to feedback to a coach about what helps (and what doesn’t help) you the more you give a coach to work with. Coaches are not mind readers. If there is something you want or need ask for it!
Be yourself. Allow all the emotions to be seen and be the most honest and real version of yourself you can. Warts and all. The best coaches with be real with you too.
Growth takes time. You are a living being and all growth is a process. This includes emotional, psychological and intellectual growth. The more patient you can be with yourself and the more time you can invest in your growth process the further you will go!
Growth takes time
Invest time in yourself
The best way to prepare for a coaching session
In order to be prepared for a coaching session some self-reflection really helps. Here is a 5 point guide to self-reflection:
Set aside good time for self reflection. It is best to avoid reflection when you are overly tired, anxious, negative or teary. Find a quiet place where you won’t be disturbed and you feel relaxed and when you have energy to focus on yourself.
Begin with a few moments of relaxation. Use a simple breathing technique to slow your mind and relax your body:
The 7-11 breathing technique counts 7 on the in-breath and 11 on the out-breath. The out-breath being longer stimulates the parasympathetic nervous system which calms and relaxes the mind.
Adopt the reporter’s mindset. Notice what has been happening in your world with your best observation skills. Make notes if it helps. You could reflect under the following categories
1. How have I been feeling?
(emotions and sensations including physical pain)
What have I been thinking?
What have I been doing?
4. Is there anything that concerns me?
5. What challenges have I been dealing with?
Avoid judgement; particularly criticism. Critical thoughts will shut down your self-reflection process. It is important that your inner world has a chance to be and for your mind to be able to notice what is going on. Positive and negative experiences are equally valid and helpful in coaching. If you find yourself with a loud inner critic then be sure to write the critical thoughts down and share them with your coach.
Be open-minded about what might happen in your coaching session. Avoid dwelling on what you are doing to say or do or how you think your coach might respond. Where possible focus your energy on reflecting on what is already happening with you. If you have concerns or fears about the session share those with your coach but be willing to allow yourself to have full right of expression in the session. Often sessions are very different that we expect and disappointment can hinder the coaching process if we have fixed ideas.